You’ve been dating a guy met via an online site like Parship. You feel comfortable with him, and it just may be turning serious. He knows you have children and is comfortable with that. You think it’s time your children and he meet. How do you introduce them without disaster?
The foundation for your date and your children to meet should be laid early. Let your children know that you are ready to start dating again and keep them informed of your dates. Tell them about the men you meet and draw them into the selection process. Ask what is important to them in someone you date.
Ask the man you’ve been dating if he’s ready and would like to meet your children. Don’t just spring it on him without warning. Even the best guy in the world wouldn’t like that.
When everyone is ready, make it a family event. Go to the zoo, for example, instead of a dinner at home. While the kids may have the home field advantage in their house, they can also inadvertently be territorial. Make it a neutral location.
Arrive at the location separately. The kids should ride with you, and your family should meet him elsewhere. Don’t all travel in the same vehicle. It’s for the children’s comfort and security.
Watch how they interact. Are the children treating him fairly? Is he the same man with them that he is with you?
Don’t rush but don’t delay introducing the important people in your life.
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